Live Your Best Life
Thanksgiving is an interesting holiday in the sense that it allows you time to prioritize and reassess what you are doing on an everyday basis. It’s one of those holidays where it almost interrupts your normal routine. It symbolizes the beginning of a hectic time for mostly everyone and allows you to figure out what is important, and what can fall by the wayside. I equate it to almost an outer body experience where you can see yourself and everything around you, and it quickly becomes clear what is working and what isn’t.
Over the past three or so weeks, I have taken some time to do just that, reflect on the past year and see what is working and what isn’t. Both Jess and I have focused more over that time making sure we get out and do things whether its going to a bar for a few drinks with friends, trying our luck at an escape room, heading to a paint your pet night, or even my high school 10-year reunion. We have been focusing on trying new things, and at least in my case reflecting on what activities, hobbies, and so on are important and what aren’t. With this, has come a lot of decisions, some tough, but others very easy. Sometimes to improve you have to let go of things that you care about if they are a drain on your morale.
Admittedly, before this time it was easy to fall victim to routine and having a hard day just to want to hideaway at home at night. Jim Carrey actually put it quite well last year when he said
“solitude is dangerous. It’s very addictive. It becomes a habit after you realize how peaceful and calm it is. It’s like you don’t want to deal with people anymore because they drain your energy”.
This quote fits me very well, because as I think about things that I look forward to, I am constantly pulled toward Saturday mornings at 6am, when my wife and the dogs are still asleep, and I am in my basement either catching up on shows or playing a video game. Its at that point, where I know I have a couple of hours to myself where it is quiet, I don’t have to talk to anyone, and I don’t have to do anything if I don’t want to, that I can recharge. That’s really what it is all about, recharging. Let’s be honest with ourselves, life is exhausting. You work every day, deal with those responsibilities, deal with your home responsibilities, and throughout that entire time have to put on your happy social face (probably the most exhausting thing of all). Everyone needs a little time to recharge from that. For me its Saturdays and Sundays before the sun comes up. That and repetitive listening to the funk genre, with a healthy dose of The Gap Band’s “You Dropped a Bomb on Me”
Every now and again though, there are times you need to recharge a little bigger. Its like Tom Hardy said in Inception, “you mustn’t be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling”. For me, dreaming bigger is focusing on things that push my creativity and challenge me to think, because that’s where I get the most fulfillment. That’s why BYT is becoming a strong focus of mine, because it allows me to create designs and come up with new unique ways of bringing ideas to life. Beyond that, I know its important to get out and live and cut out the ultimately pointless drama. So much of our day is consumed by things that ultimately do not matter much when its time to move on. What tends to stick, isn’t the size of the house, the amount of money, or the type of car. Those things are nice, but at the end of the day it’s the memories made along the way that stick with us.
In the words of the Situation, Mike Sorrentino, “I am living my best life”. Consider it an early (or late) new year’s resolution. I am refocusing my life on the important things: challenging myself creatively, going out with friends more, and living my best life. Anything that does not fit into that or creates negative energy has to fall by the wayside because life is too short to get bogged down. Consider this a challenge for yourself too, reader: get out there and live your best life because if you don’t ultimately all you leave with is regret.
PS. I know I quoted the situation… but the situation is quickly becoming one of the funniest people I get to watch every week on Thursdays.